Prizewinner in the 13th Annual Writer’s Digest Book Awards, Inspiration
The Queen of My Self is a gorgeous book in every aspect. It is immediately
apparent that a great deal of thought and planning went
into the production of this book. The cover is striking,
the text is meticulously organized, and the collection
of blurbs is impressive and persuasive. I especially
appreciated the “Further Reading” that the
author suggests, and I enjoyed the whimsical “Queen
Suggests” sections. To be completely honest, this
book’s design and content cannot be over-praised.
The author has done a magnificent job.
The Queen of My Self
is not just another self-help book. Instead, it is a
new way to look at life for women who are “no
longer Maidens” but not so old that they are ready
for a nursing home or dirt nap. Henes has a new land
for us ladies who want more from life and it’s
called “Sovereignty in Midlife.” If
you haven’t become Queen of yourself yet, this
is a must read book.
I learned that there are three
stages to a woman’s life— Maiden, Mother
and Crone. Maiden is the fair young thing, before motherhood
and long before Crone. Mother is the childbearing, career
era, after Maiden and just before Crone. Crone is the
“wizened and wily old lady.” The woman we
become after “the dizzying maze of menopause and
emerg(ing) at the other end” can be the dark area
Until I read Henes’ work,
I wondered whom I was and how I had ended up in this
dark place where I wasn’t sure what I was supposed
to be (sometimes it’s difficult when we don’t
have a title). I knew that I was well past Maiden, through
Mother, but hadn’t yet arrived at Crone (I wasn’t
feeling the wizened and wily old lady feelings). I had
assumed that these things would come magically because
there sure weren’t any role models around for
me to fashion myself after (I assumed that this midlife
phase was a waiting area so I could hop the Crone train).
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Michigan Women's Forum
For centuries, women fell
into three, well-defined categories, following the hormonal
curve from first menses through menopause and straight
on ‘til death.
Times have changed, and our need
to redefine womanhood seems to be following. No longer
do post-menopausal women instantly enter ‘cronehood’
with its stooped and wizened imagery.
In fact, enlightened and powerful
women in mid-years often begin new lives with a sense
of freedom, following changes in family and lifestyle.
They become, author Donna Henes
says, The Queen of My Self.
Subtitled Stepping into Sovereignty
in Midlife, this 2005 release begins by delicately
weaving a convincing fabric of wisdom and logic, describing
the ancient archetypes and why they no longer apply.
Everything here we already know to be true, whether
we are Queens or members of her court. CLICK
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The author’s idea
for women about aging will inspire you to find your
own ideas—and your own way of taking control of
your life and destiny.
Welcome to my life—and
the millions of mid-life, post-menopausal women living
life strong and loud. This time of life is a mixture
of new things, exciting and thrilling—and troubling
and frightening things—all tied up in the radical
changes called midlife.
The Crone is the ancient one,
the wise one, the all-knowing, all-giving one who dispenses
her knowledge with patience and largesse. Without the
role model, we have to invent one for ourselves.
“The old woman I shall
become will be quite different from the woman I am now.
Another I is becoming, and so far I have not had to
complain of her.”—George Sand, French writer
(1804-1876). An FYI, George Sand was a French romantic
woman writer using a man’s name. She was known
for her numerous love affairs with such prominent figures.
The author explains that many
women are having Croning ceremonies to celebrate the
end of their childbearing years. A recent Gallop Poll
of women 50 to 65 revealed that: 51% felt the happiest
now than ever before; 10% felt their happiest time was
in their 20s; 17% in their 30s; and 15% in their 40s.
Hmmm, most of us are happiest since we lost what society
seems to value most: sexual allure and childbearing
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