This is one of those books that
constantly comes up with too many juicy quotes for one
review. We do have the Mother definition from the book
to lead off this issue, but Donna also has defining
comments about Maiden, Queen and Crone. Someone once
asked her to write a crone article— assuming that
she considered herself a crone, of course— and
Donna suddenly realized she didn’t really think
she was "there" yet. She didn’t write
that article, but her reaction led to her concept of
a fourth stage/phase between Mother and Crone that she
named Queen. Others have come up with a fourth between
Maiden and Mother they call Warrior. A TBP
article awhile back suggested a MMC aspect of each of
the phases of MMC! It’s just too hard to completely
box up a woman, who naturally multi-tasks, from childhood
through ancient crone jumping around the "phases"
when situations call for it. It just happens! It also
makes sense that women can "name" for themselves
different phases—someone did once upon a time.
Where does folklore (or any kind of lore) come from?
The folk, and in our case, the womenfolk, and folklore
by its nature is alive and ever-changing. So if you’re
reading this and haven’t felt you "fit"
any of the maiden/mother/crone stereotypes, now you
see that you aren’t alone and that there are indeed
other choices! (And that you don’t have to follow
anyone else’s path.)
Buffalo Woman's Vision
I have always been somewhat uncomfortable
with the triad of Mother, Maiden, Crone. It never felt
quite complete to me, and at 60 I have never comfortably
fit the role of Crone in my own mind. This book has
brought to me a new concept, which feels right.
Perhaps because I relate to the
sacred “fours” of all life the four dimensions
of a woman’s life as explained by Mama Donna speaks
to me of wholeness: the four directions, the four elements
of life, the four phase of Grandmother Moon, the four
seasons. For me it completes the circle.
Mama Donna says that contrary
to the assumptions of many women, the Triple Goddess
model is not universal, nor is it herstorical. She says
that theory was first articulated in so many words by
Robert Graves, a classical scholar, mythographer, and
poet, who in his 1948 study, White Goddess,
synthesized the nine most important early Greek goddesses
into three main types.
HERE to read more
As I rapidly approach my fiftieth
year, I cannot imagine being a crone. I do not feel
equal to the task of passing on aged wisdom to the next
generation. Nor do I feel aged. I have, however, learned
much, changed much, experienced much since maidenhood
passed away and the empty nest of motherhood approaches.
I have always looked forward to turning 50. All the
women I know at this particular benchmark are so vivacious,
so eager, so active. Along comes Donna Henes with the
answer to the question that we can barely express. We
are not old at 50 in this modern world. The tripartite
mythology of a woman’s life is no longer viable.
There is a fourth stage between motherhood and crone.
Henes names this stage the Queen of yourself! She encourages
us to consider a coronation rather than a croning! Reading
this brilliant book of personal anecdotes, quotes, exercises
and encouragement, I found myself nodding my head, “Yes.
Yes. I get that.” Delving into this superb book
will make you stand a little straighter and walk a little
more gracefully as the Queen within you evolves. If
you do not read another book this summer, read this
Bucks County Courier Times
40 is just a matter of how you
look at it
|“There is a fountain
of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity
you bring to your life and the lives of the people
you love. When you learn to tap this source, you
will truly have defeated age.”
Over the weekend, my younger sister
celebrated her 40th birthday, though celebrate is hardly
right word. CLICK
HERE to read more
The Queen and I
I first heard of this book
and the concept of women becoming “queens”
in midlife when working on the Glastonbury Goddess Conference
website early this year, and to be honest, wasn’t
at all sure of the necessity for such a
new paradigm. What, I wondered, was so terrible about
being a crone? Aren’t we just spoiled Western
women, lucky enough to have vastly extended life spans
and now unwilling to carry the energy and archetype
of the hag? What about many women in – say –
South Africa, who are lucky to see their fiftieth birthdays,
let alone become octogenarians? Shouldn’t we be
trying to redefine or reshape the old archetype?
But deep down, I knew I was being
a bit of a hypocrite, for even though I’m 55 this
year I’ll be damned if anyone’s calling
me a crone quite yet.
Then I reviewed Donna Henes’
HERE to read more